Individual Relationship Coaching

Let’s reinvent your dating life

Is it hard for you to “get our of your head” on dates?

Do you deal with self-doubt in dating?

Is it hard for you to read women’s non-verbal communication?

Is it challenging for you to notice and talk about emotions?

Are you confused about what women really want?

Are you a nice guy who is frustrated by never getting the results you want?

Are you not sure how to express your interest in a woman? And not sure how to transition from dating to a committed relationship?

Do you have anyone that you can talk with about this?

Okay, so maybe you don’t have a ton of dating or relationship experience. No problem. I can give you the condensed version.

I can help you decode women to reinvent your dating life and relationships.

If this sounds like you. Welcome.



Hi, I’m Dr. Alyssa Adams!

I’m a Clinical Psychologist & Personal and Executive Coach

I help introverted, high achieving guys to change their mindset and strategy to create a relationship and life they love.

Dr. Adams is the head coach and founder of a boutique personal and executive coaching practice in Washington, DC. She works with clients virtually (via phone or video call) and is available to work with clients all over the world.

She collaborates with her clients to create individualized coaching goals and professionally curated resources. She helps her clients set clear goals and create tactical steps to achieve these goals. She leans heavily on her training as a psychologist to help individuals create clear and achievable goals, reinvent new relationship patterns, addresses thinking patterns and belief systems that hinder progress, and build confidence to create and sustain success.

IMAGINE, AT THE END of our work, YOU:

...are dating confidently and acting assertively

…understand non-verbal communication more clearly

…can identify and discuss emotions comfortably

…feel genuinely good about yourself

…are clear on what you want in a relationship so you can date more easily and strategically

…know how to go after what you want

…are comfortably transitioning from dating into a relationship

…know how to relax and have fun on dates (and get out of your head and stop feeling distracted)


We get results in three, specific areas:

Confidence & Assertiveness

We build unshakable confidence and create assertiveness by addressing that inner voice that can be a jerk and critiques everything you do. We work together to ask for what you want.


We create a fundamental change in your belief systems about yourself, others, and relationships. We question everything. We unhook from the need to people-please.

CLARITY & Strategy

I help you learn how to date smarter by getting incredibly clear on what you want in a relationship and in a partner. We create a tactical plan to date more efficiently.


you’re taking action steps and we’re addressing any bumps along the way.

VIP INdividual Coaching Package


  • Four or six months of virtual (by phone or video call) individual coaching

  • Unlimited individual coaching sessions per month (clients generally schedule 45 minute sessions weekly or longer sessions every other week)

  • Unlimited voxer & email communication

  • Individualized in-between session assignments

I’m in the business of change. I will hold you accountable for what you really want.

I am committed to the change that you desire.

I work with only 1-2 new clients each month, and I’d love to talk with you.

Do you desire true change and are ready to do what it takes to get there?

Let’s talk.



I've had the pleasure of working with Alyssa and she's a gem! I felt a connection with her right away! She's truly caring, open-minded, smart + talented. She's also very intuitive + has a unique connection to spirit + loves assisting others to connect more deeply with their intuition + inner guidance, so they can use them to create thriving, healthy relationships!

-- The Boulder Psychic, Rachel Claire


Alyssa is one of those rare individuals who possesses talent, authenticity, analytics, and intuition combined. Having known Alyssa nearly a decade as both a colleague and dear friend, I don't believe there is a problem she can't solve. Her warmth and sense of humor are infectious and her wisdom is beyond her years. She is a true joy to work with and utterly dedicated to both her clients and her craft. She will inspire and guide you to be the best version of yourself and you'll have a blast along the way!

-- Caryn Seebach, PsyD, Health Psychologist